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CHOOSING MY PARTNER ON SOCIAL MEDIA



*CHOOSING MY PARTNER ON SOCIAL MEDIA*
*(An Admonition To Today's Youth)*
I think you need to give a thought to this reminder, Allah bless you.
Please be careful what you see in the distance for it may not look the same when it gets closer. Do not promise marriage to the person you just met on social media because sometimes you will be taken in by our posts only to realize that it's all 'cut and paste'.
Many would-be couples have ran away because after meeting the partner they realized that this is not what they bargained for. Do not forget, appearances are deceptive.
This person may post beautiful articles on Facebook with thousand likes and hundreds of comments but at the end of the day you find him as a dull and unintelligent man.
Furthermore, many immoral persons may post Eeman-filled advices on Facebook and WhatsApp (If you see their prowess on WhatsApp pages you may even think they are the Mufti of Makkah) only to turn out to be irresponsible people who ignore their Salaah, live on Haram and commit all manner of unIslamic activities.
Some ladies may put on the Hijab just as a fashion for the camera but in their various communities their dress code is the total opposite. We have seen many.
I am not saying you should not get acquainted or express the desire but your solemn promise of marriage should wait till you see the person or you let somebody check the person for you.
You don't necessarily need to LOVE the person before you can marry him or her, but you need to appreciate the person as a good Muslim with equally good moral qualities.
One of the most painful things to happen to a person is to realize when it is too late that the choice of a life partner was made on wrong premises.
I have seen many hearts broken hence my admonition.
A word to the wise............
*NB:* I must however admit that a few have worked though. Allah knows but we know not.

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