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HOW TO CORRECT YOUR WIVES WITHOUT HURTING HER FEELINGS Most men hurt their wives in the name of correcting them. They speak harshly, they are so rash in their approach and can be brutal. Lots of women are living their lives in bitterness and anger due to the careless ways their husbands have been talking to them every time. Here, you will be able to know the right ways to talk to your wife without hurting her. 1.       LOWER YOUR VOICE: Don’t shout at her, she is not your housemaid, she is not a child. You can correct YES, but why shouting at her? 2.       DO IT IN LOVE: Correcting should be done in love. If done in any other way, it turns to criticism and condemnation. 3.       DON’T CRITICIZE: Stop criticizing her, rather correct in love. Most will say its constructive criticism, true? It means disapproval by pointing out errors and mistakes. Correction is the act of offering better options to mista...

I saw her, I love what I saw and I went for her. I had share a few times about our past, so you may know little. After things started getting serious and beautiful. I planned a move to surprise her; so I told her to meet me at a quite place. I was going to propose to her. Before then I had the conviction that she is the one. It was in the night. The sky was bright and the stars were made for the 'hour'. It was awesome! Not long she showed up; there were so much of 'beautiful exchanges'. While we continue to get along, she decided to 'head up' first. I was so interested to hear her talk about things. The love was new! But My heart discontinued when she broke it to me that she was an asthmatic person and not only that, she was always having this frequent chronic stomach pain that had lasted for 7 years. I remained numbed while she tried telling all. My eyes went blur. Those unwanted 'water' busted to made it so. I could not hide my feelings. She ...

*TIME IS SOMETHING* She is married at the age of 21. - Oh and I’m still single at 35. She’s momming three kids. - Oh and I am 10 years married and have none. She is a manager in an international company. - Oh, we graduated together and I am still jobless. She travels the world . - Oh and I have never been abroad. Job title, income, grades, house, and Instagram and Facebook  likes—the number of categories in which we can compare ourselves to others are infinite. Where is it expected from you to be a doctor or engineer, get married by 21 and have mortgaged house and 3 kids by 26. RELAX. You’re not LATE. You’re not EARLY. Everyone is running their own RACE, in their own TIME. Don’t be violent or mean to yourself for no reason other than just because your path is different from the person’s path beside you. Be your own cheerleader. Stop comparing yourself with others and instead refocus all that energy internally and focus on how you can become the best ve...

*BED ~ WETTING & GUSL ~ JANABAH* *Rules Regarding Ghusl and Wet Dreams for Men and Women* *Q u e s t i o n s:* (1) I have learned that if a women who has reached puberty has an erotic dream and sees some discharge afterwards, she has to make Ghusl. (2) If she sees discharge alone without remembering a dream, she would also have to take Ghusl. But if she remembers only the dream without seeing discharge, she doesn’t have to take Ghusl. (3) What if a women constantly has discharge? How does she know when to take Ghusl and when not? (4) Can u briefly explain the step by step way of performing Gusl Janabah according to Sunnah? *R E S P O N S E* بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم *With regards to wet dreams, men and women have the similar rulings.* *So, if a man or woman has a wet dream and he/she sees wetness/discharge they are obliged to make Ghusl, even if they are not certain the wetness is from an ejaculation/orgasm. In other words, even if he/she has constant di...

Ruling on women spending of their own wealth without their husbands permission      Question I am a working woman, and I have a salary from which I spend on myself and my home, I give some to my family and I give some in charity, and so on. Many of the arguments that I have with my husband arise because of the way I spend my money. Does my husband have the right to object to the way I spend my money? Do I have to ask for his permission when I want to spend any of my money? Answer Praise be to Allah. Undoubtedly the free adult person who is of sound mind and discernment is permitted to dispose of his own wealth with no restrictions as long as he is alive, whether he is buying, renting, giving a gift, establishing a Waqf (endowment) or any other kind of transaction. There is no dispute among the scholars on this point. There is also no dispute among the scholars concerning the fact that the husband does not have the right to object to the way his wife...

*EARNING HALAL IN ISLAM*               *The Extraordinary Precautions taken by the Holy Companions against Consuming what is Haram in the Religion of Islam:* The biographers of Sayyidna Abu Bakr Siddique (ra) have recorded that he had a slave. Once he brought some food to him. Abu Bakr took a morsel from it. Later he discovered that the food was Haram. The slave told him that he used to work as a foreteller and a seer in the Days of Jahiliyyah and he had purchased that food from that income. Abu Bakr (ra) said, “You have destroyed me.” Abu Bakr wanted to put his hands into his mouth to vomit out the food but he could not. Some people told him that he might vomit easily if he took water. He sent for water and kept on drinking it and vomiting the food until he had emptied all the food in his stomach and he could vomit no more. Some onlookers commented and said, “Why are you suffering so much for a small morsel of food?” He said, “I will take ou...

*Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu to you all. *When sister complains of her husband's sexual weakness, I ask her, what have you done to increase his sexual prowess?* The kind of food you feed your husband could make him perform poorly. SEX is not an individual responsibility, since both of us engaged equally, Prophet Muhammad, may the peace and blessings of Almighty Allah continue shower on him said.... When making love, do not walk away until you taste her  water and she tastes your water... Meaning... Until you both reach orgasm. He (SAW) said, when a wife engaged in something or beautify herself to attract her husband, Inviting him to bed shall be given 10 rewards, 10 sins wiped and her Daraja will be raised, So dear sisters, if this is the case, definitely we have a big role to play, not by inviting him to bed alone but to helping him last longer in bed and doing the work very excellent.. Let me remind you of Ginger and dried dates, Ginger is a power...

*DON'T BE TOO PROUD IN A MARRIAGE  RELATIONSHIP.* Once, a man returned from work and found his wife cooking. She gave him a sweet loving  kiss.  They shared   happy  moments while preparing dinner together  . While they were  at the dinner table, the woman's cell received a message from her friend who wished her good night. The husband saw the message and  assumed it was from a man. He got so  upset left the dinner table without talking to his wife and went to  bed without eating dinner. The woman  looked at her husband with disbelief  and  wondered how he could be bothered by a simple message? She said to herself  "this is ridiculous and  I will not go after him..He is not a kid." The woman had her meal and went to bed. She did not speak to the husband and  neither did the husband speak to her..Instead  both of them moved to the furthest corner of the bed and turned  their back o...

LETS BE SINCERE: Second wife! The words reverberated through my brain. Why? Am I not good enough? Never! I will never accept a second wife! If you want a second wife you can go out and get one as long as you know that I will not be here when you come back! Those were my words to my husband a few years ago when he mentioned to me that he is intending to marry again a second time. It was a woman recently divorced, 4 children. She is having a hard time, he said, she don't know where the next meal is coming from or how to provide adequately for her children. "Where is their father?" I asked, "Can't he take care of his own kids? Why do you a strange man have to carry another man's burden? Surely there are other ways that you can help her out financially without having to MARRY her! I could not imagine myself in a plural marriage. Sharing my husband with another woman. Sharing his love, his smiles, his jokes with a woman other than myself. I could not fatho...

Dear single looking to make a decision, Yeah "hide my identity" ladies who complain of heart breaks every single day and when you look at their stories critically you will see that all of the supposed "relationships" were in their heads, meaning they were in it alone. Men can be very nice to you i know its  confusing but that doesn't necessarily  mean they want anything more than that, some are naturally nice while others can not help but to be nice to women either way as a woman i think it is wrong for you to assume you're in a relationship with any Man just because he texts and smiles at you whenever you two meet. Before, i blamed them for giving false hopes but as time goes by i realized some of us like making a big deal out of nothing, with just an ordinary hello from a guy a lady will start planning a wedding, imagining things she shouldn't. Wait to be asked out or shown clear signs you are wanted before you jump into conclusions. A ...

Rights of a Muslim Wife upon Her Husband  There is a misconception that Islam doesn’t give proper rights to woman. If you carefully study Islam in the lights of Quran and the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ), you will understand that Islam is the only religion giving proper rights to a woman or wife. Allah said in the Quran: And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought? (Quran 30:21) Below are the 12 rights of a Muslim wife upon her husband or a Muslim husband’s duties towards his wife: 1.      TO SPEND UPON HER , to feed her. Not to be excessive in this and not to be stingy! The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ‘Give charity.’ A man said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, I have a Dinar.’ He said: ‘Spend it on yourself.’ He said: ‘I have another.’ He said: ‘ Spend it on your wife .’ He said: ‘I hav...

THE ONLY SOLUTION AT MIDDLE AGE, IS A LIFE STYLE CHANGE. As we grow older, say from 40 years up to 65. There is nothing better than a total life style change to preserve us and keep us healthy. After 40 if a person still wants to keep living like a child, he or she might not make it passed middle age. If however such individuals make it, while living like children, then they might suffer a lot of health problems as they age. One of the first things someone over forty years should consider, will be a life of moderation. Drink moderately, eat healthy and wisely, sleep enough and don't deprive yourself of sleep because of partying, hanging out and all such youthful desires and occupations. Regular exercises should not be missed. Because at the age of forty and above the vital organs of a human being will need some aiding to function properly through exercising. Any man or woman who after 40 still consumes alcohol like a little boy or girl and indulge freely in all the thi...

*Why is Salah better than sleep?* Answer: Because sleep is answering the call of one's desire and Salah is answering the call of Allah Ta'aala It is better than sleep because sleep is death and Salah is life It is better than sleep because sleep is a relaxation for the body and Salah is a relaxation for the soul It is better than sleep because the Mu'min and kaafir shares in sleeping whereas Salah is done only by a Mu'min The people of Fajr is a successful people,  their faces are exhilarating, their foreheads are bright and their time is blessed If you are one of them, then praise Allah Ta'aala for His bounty on you If you're not, then pray to Allah Ta'aala to make you from amongst them How beautiful is Fajr Fulfilling it's Fardh will put you in the protection of Allah Ta'aala It's Sunnah is better than the whole world and whatever it contains It's recitation is being witnessed as Allah Ta'aala says: "In...