Dear single looking to make a decision, Picking a spouse is not easy.

Dear single looking to make a decision,

Yeah "hide my identity" ladies who complain of heart breaks every single day and when you look at their stories critically you will see that all of the supposed "relationships" were in their heads, meaning they were in it alone.

Men can be very nice to you i know its  confusing but that doesn't necessarily  mean they want anything more than that, some are naturally nice while others can not help but to be nice to women either way as a woman i think it is wrong for you to assume you're in a relationship with any Man just because he texts and smiles at you whenever you two meet.

Before, i blamed them for giving false hopes but as time goes by i realized some of us like making a big deal out of nothing, with just an ordinary hello from a guy a lady will start planning a wedding, imagining things she shouldn't. Wait to be asked out or shown clear signs you are wanted before you jump into conclusions.

A "hi" or love emoji should not  fool you into thinking you are already in a relationship for some it's even worst they will begin to feel as if they are engaged.

Ladies Biko yayi ace wayon mu yafi haka by now.

Dear single looking to make a decision,

Picking a spouse is not easy. You can take your time, do all the checks (*see Above posts on this), know his friend, get details of his family, pray and still be confused.

You may already feel like you are in a relationship with someone but at some point, you have to make the decision that is best for you. A guy may not look like he'd be ready when you need him to be. Let this be your decision. You would not have done wrong if you choose to stay with him, you also would not have done wrong if you believe your lives do not match.

This is the essence of courtship!!!

A time to assess and make a decision on what you see. That you have done that doesn't mean you have to be married to the person.

What you need to do though, is be fair and true and open with your feelings. Options may come your way that would sway your decision. If you find someone that represents what you want over another, go for the person you believe to be your best choice.

Yes, be relatively selfish because when marriage does come, the work it needs, the challenges it brings, will not be nicer to you simply because you married out of pity.

It may be heartbreaking but you need to do that which is best for you. Don't let it drag because then you'd be unfair to them, knowing it's probably not going anywhere.

**Pray about your decision and think about it well, considering the more important checks beyond that which you see. The last thing you want is to leave a good relationship for someone much worse because you checked and were attracted to the wrong values.

May Allah grant us understanding!!!